In a week of big decisions, one value stands out - Honesty
n a week when public attention has turned once again to leadership and integrity, many here in Ireland are reflecting on what truly matters in the people we choose to trust. The recent presidential race and Jim Gavin’s withdrawal have reignited conversations about what qualities we most value and honesty continues to rise to the top.
While it’s tempting to view this through a political lens, the deeper question is cultural: why do we respond so strongly to authenticity? Why do we instinctively admire those who speak plainly, admit faults, and live their values?
Research shows that children begin experimenting with deception as early as preschool age, often as part of normal cognitive development. They lie to avoid trouble, to protect others, or simply to test boundaries. But what determines whether those small fabrications evolve into lifelong habits or fade with maturity depends heavily on how adults respond.
Why honesty matters for boys
Boys in particular face subtle pressures that can make honesty difficult. Many grow up in cultures that reward toughness over vulnerability. Research on emotional honesty in young men reveals that when emotions like fear, sadness, or guilt are shamed, boys learn to conceal the truth — not just from others, but also from themselves. In schools and sports teams, this often shows up as bravado, denial, or avoidance.
Promoting honesty, then, isn’t simply about discouraging lies. It’s about creating environments where the truth feels safe, where boys can own up to mistakes, express emotions, and see that vulnerability is a form of strength.
What teachers and parents can do
Experts in child and adolescent development suggest several simple but powerful ways to build honesty in everyday life.
Model it yourself. Children are more likely to tell the truth when they see adults doing the same, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Praise truth-telling, not perfection. When a child admits fault, focus on courage, not consequences.
Encourage emotional expression. Talking about feelings helps prevent the small cover-ups that grow into bigger ones.
Talk about why honesty matters. Using stories and real-life examples can help children explore what honesty looks like and how it builds trust.
These conversations can start early. The PACE Community defines honesty simply as “telling the truth and doing what’s right even when it’s hard.” That’s a message both children and adults need to hear more often.
A culture craving truth
Across Ireland and beyond, people seem increasingly drawn to leaders who embody that same simple ideal. In a time of scepticism and spin, honesty feels radical not because it’s complicated, but because it’s rare.
Perhaps that’s the lesson in all of this. Whether in politics, classrooms, or living rooms, honesty is not just a virtue; it’s a form of connection. It reminds us that trust, once earned, is the foundation of everything else.
